It’s very strange that I had no problem buying liquor or illegal drugs when I was underage but I was too embarrased to buy condoms in a drug store.

In the group of friends I hung out with, fear of pregnancy was very high.  I think we would have had less of a problem calling our parents to bail us out of jail on a minor drug offense than to come home and tell them you had gotten someone pregnant or were pregnant (my female friends, not me).

My solution to this dilemma was to buy condoms from a vending machine in the bathroom of a gas station that was at the end of the airport runway.

I finally got over this fear of buying condoms publically when I was about 18 and moved in with my now wife and she had no problem sending me to the store to buy her “feminine hygiene” products.  Once I tackled that fear, condoms were no problem.

The fear of pregnancy followed my wife and I through our 20’s and 30’s.  We were never ready to have kids, didn’t have enough money to have kids, we should have done that last year, all the usual reasons.  We then realized one day we were too old to have kids.  Probably not biologically but definitely psychologically.  We were selfish and self-centered. 

Children can’t be let out in the yard to play until you get up at 1:30 p.m. on Sunday because you were out at a club until last call the night before.  Dogs can. Cats don’t even need to be let out, you can ignore them.

 We never talked about our lack of desire to have children with family very much which led to the following encounter between my wife and her father when we were in our late 30’s –

My father in law had some sort of surgery and my wife had gone to Florida to be his “nurse” during this time.  As he woke up from the anesthesia, she was standing there and he asked her “Have you had Charlie tested?”  her response was “for what?”.  He then said “well you’ve never had kids”.  Her final response –

“I guess it might help if we stopped using birth control”.

End of discussion.

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This blog is hosted by .  If you go to their home page you will see a small selection of blogs/posts they are “recommending”.  A few days ago I saw one that caught my interest and clicked on it.  The title was “Childless by Choice” which my wife and I are, so I thought I would take a look.  It was a good post.  Not too serious on the subject and covering the bases.  I left a comment as a courtesy to the author.  For some reason I must have checked to be notified of updates to the post.

I forgot completely about the post until late that night when my blackberry all of a sudden had 50 plus emails notifying me of comments to this post.  I cleared them, then another large batch came through.  Yesterday the notifications were intermittent.  This morning I woke up to over 50 notifications.  I went back to the original source and checked it out. 

This is a good blog, not one with salacious celebrity gossip or anything.  The author had posted an update – It seems her post must have been randomly picked.  Her previous posts that I saw had no comments on one, two on another, eight on another.  These are respectable numbers for a non celebrity blogger.  The post that had been featured on the front page of OVER 200 COMMENTS.

I am pimping this blog on Twitter and Facebook and would KILL for this kind of exposure.

My congratulations go out to Jessica who writes: ANDIAMO – what a travel writer writes when she’s not writing about travel

Now back to my original question.  Anybody want to fill me in?

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